I want you to understand that your actions have consequences. I knew that I wasn’t strong enough to fight for you but I somehow neglected that feeling. This is such a beautiful entry, so inspiring! You caused the damage and now you’re trying to pick up the pieces. I used this letter a while back for a women’s group I was co-facilitating. Becuase of the pain that I have experienced the past 2 years, I have built this huge wall which has help assisted on blocking any future hurts and pains. I’m gonna talk about why and how to write a forgiveness letter and share a copy of my own for you. You were never mine, not for a moment. Because if you are really angry and hurt at someone else, you can try to release it, but the pain will remain every-time you see them and it will come back eventually. not a day goes by without me thinking of you. I want you to understand that you hurt me. I felt robbed. She's addicted to caffeinated beverages and people who make her smile. I remember that if you were worth my trust and love, you are worth my forgiveness and I am worth the relief of being able to let go. As my Grandpa and Uncle always said. You don’t know what I am feeling right now. I’ve gotten as low as I could. Amazing words written by a total stranger might help mend ways and save a relationship of two very close people! I could write the words over and over again, but I realize it changes nothing. At the end I read this letter out loud to the group and they all had the same reaction. And I must find who I am without that. But that is when I remind myself this letter isn’t written for you; it’s written for me. I forgive you. Embrace it. In order for your letter … All Rights Reserved. You brought out a pain in me that I hope never surfaces again when I’ve healed. Each day that you didn’t tell me … Stay tuned! I was the thing you destroyed, when all I wanted was to build that happiness in your life. They said if I all I done that day was read this letter, it all would have made sense to them. 1. So you stay one step ahead: you destroy it yourself. This might send the guy the message that he hurt you, and he might start to feel guilty for what he did. we don’t talk anymore, at least not like we used to. Writing a letter to someone you feel has betrayed you often is an upsetting and grueling task that involves painful emotions most people would rather forget. I am blessed for the moments that I have and the moments that I have lost. I hope you change. It also entails the laborious task of addressing a person who has hurt you, which takes strength and courage. Each day that you didn’t tell me of your betrayal. You formed in words what I have been trying to verbalize for months now. I ask myself many times throughout the day "why am I still with But now, after six months, I've finally found all the words that I wanted to say to you, and surprisingly enough they aren't "I'm sorry." Maybe you thought you could save me before you hurt me but your method ended up hurting me anyway. Advertisement. There is comfort in seeing myself as a martyr and that my pain isn’t for nothing. As humans, we let each other down. <3 I have shared this! We make mistakes. We all know that relationships grow not only because of the good times a couple shares, but also because of the numerous fights they have and the lessons they learn from them. My prayers have been answered in a way that has left me completely broken. Christine Keller. I really always had faith in you. Thank you for all the years, sweetheart I love you. I wanted to bring out the man that you always wanted to be. I know there are parts of you that I will never truly understand and therefore cannot fit into the small boxes of reasoning that I have tried to place around these complex situations. Abraham Lincoln had a way to deal with anger, stress and pain by writing letters. On the contrary, I forgive you because I remember. when i read this letter i realise i need to forgive and forget..thank you..i copy this and share. We thought we were soulmates, that we would be together for eternity. Whoever you are, I want you to know that you have hurt me, but I forgive you. This was everything that I needed to come across right now. You're different then what you make people believe. I never intended to and I hope I never would. I’m sure I have hurt you too. But do you know what the strangest and most unbelievably frustrating part of all of this is? Forgiveness will make the future kinder to the both of us. It is not to any one person, but rather to many people. I had worksheets and activities planned for the almost three hour group. Even now as I close this letter, I find myself concerned your feelings will be hurt. excruciating pain in my heart. I was your family. A Letter To The People That Have Hurt You, And for that I will be a better person going forward, 8 Truths You Need to Accept in Your Early Twenties, Dear Discouraged Twenty-Somethings: The Best is Still Yet to Come. This letter needs no specification of a sender or receiver. In the beginning, you told me I was beautiful, you told me what I deserved and promised to always be just that. It must have hurt on your part, to let go of someone you truly like, because I’ve been there, not just once or twice, but many times, letting go of those who have hurt me so badly that I actually feel the ache within. Once you’ve cleared your head, make a list of the specific ways you felt hurt to help you direct the conversation. I had read this many months ago but did not share for fear of being looked at by my dearest friend as someone who is preaching, yet surprisingly today that same friend shared this, well if we both forgive and turely understand the meaning of forgiveness, if we truely know that as humans we are both not perfect and can never fit a ‘boxed’ reasoning, it gives me hope that one day things will be better between us. Thank you for posting this 🙂. There isn’t a super-short answer to this, because you have a lot to consider. You would like My collection of apology letters for hurting someone you love: You have that one person you love and now have hurt. Reblogged this on Scintilla of Wisdom and commented: June 22, 2020. You chose this. It is not from me or from you. You are a piece of me, and that piece will not eat away at my soul like hatred would. Please forgive me if I have hurt you in any way. Dear Boy That Hurt Me (over and over again), Though I've seen this letter written by a million different people in a million different ways, I've also rewritten this probably a million times since you left. I want you to see the world from my view, and I want you to understand that life holds a lot for us. I’ve been screaming for a long time. An anger that I learned from you. She's an advocate for equality, knowledge, healthy relationships, compassion, self-confidence, integrity and above all, love. This article is beautiful. I had read this months back but did not share as I thot a dear friend I wanted to send this to might feel offended as always happens between us. He isn't the same man, but to him you cry the same words. You will have to live with yourself, with the emptiness and regret. There are those situations where someone you don’t know well has wronged you. The letter you always wanted to write. I know that there was a reason why I believed in you, and therefore there is a reason why I still want the absolute best for you. The letter you write in anger and pain is definitely the letter you should burn in the fireplace. I relentlessly defended you. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. When we hold on to hurt, anger, pain, and any other toxic emotion, it just eats away at our very soul. gratifying work. I don’t forgive you because I don’t want to deal with the recognition of your actions. I never wanted you to suffer alone. Like someone had stolen my time and energy, stolen my love. Surprisingly today that same dear friend shared this message. If you have knowingly or unknowingly hurt your boyfriend, here are a few samples of apology letters you can use to make it up to him. He told you that he loved you, and you believed him. But it seems as if I am incredibly wrong, you don't respect and I'm not sure if you ever did. It really touched my soul. While texting is convenient for simple messages and … Just bc I wouldn’t wrong you that way apparently means nothing. This week I’m talking about relationships for my project. To the “man” that raped me, Let me begin by saying that by definition you are a man but you most certainly are not what a man is. Almost an “ah ha” moment”. I don’t forgive you because I have forgotten. I let you in, against my best wishes. The thought of you makes me smile, and I know our love was real, so I'm writing you this letter so that you know how I truly feel. You and I are different people, but in the end we are the same. This letter needs no specification of a sender or receiver. Sweetheart, I’m really sorry that I have hurt you. But I have one request to ask you: Please do not make that person cry. You know baby, I never wanted to be the reason a … And although that doesn’t make anything better, it allows me to move forward. 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